Many victims of child abuse carry the burden of a dark shadow lingering in their thought, well in to their adulthood. This holds true even if the abuse took place decades ago. The bitter truth is that the trauma and suffering caused by child abuse doesn’t end with the abuse itself. It stays on, for a long time, causing more physical and mental issues. What is worse about child abuse is that it is very usual to occur at home, or by a person whom everyone around us places a lot of trust on. It is very difficult to forget. Not everyone who was victim to some sort of abuse show symptoms later on in life, but many carry their bad experience well in to their future. This in turn manifests signs of psychological problems such as depression, or even physiological issues such as obesity. If you are suffering with such tragic consequences, it is important to deal with them sooner rather than later.
Talk it out. It will hurt, but re play all of those painful memories in your head, if you want closure. You can resort to individual or group counselling services or simply talk to someone whom you are comfortable with. Another option is to put every single thought on paper. Write it all down. Write down even the minute of details that you can remember. Do this over and over again, with every memory that pops up. Just get it out of your system.
Be honest with the doctor
Be it a professional clinical psychologist whom you are seeing because of your depression, or a neurologist because of your persistent headaches, tell them everything. Knowledge about past abuse can be a game changer when it comes to treatment. If you are not satisfied with your psychiatrist or doctor, move on and look for someone who works for you.
Read about child abuse as much as you can. Read inspirational stories as to how certain individuals successfully cope with past abuse. Know your triggers. Postpartum depression is a whole other subject, but there are studies that show postpartum depression also worsens manifestations of previous abusive experiences. Studies also link breast feeding to rekindling of such unpleasant memories.
Rethink your coping strategies
Watch yourself as to what you do when a painful memory of the abuse you experienced pops up. Do you go looking for a cigarette? Do you open the fridge and pull out the biggest ice cream tub available? Over eating, alcohol, smoking, physically harming yourself are all considered to be ineffective coping strategies that lead to more problems in life. Try to train yourself with better coping strategies like; meditating, praying, drinking a glass of water and taking a walk etc.